Want a life change but don’t know where to start…

Are you drawn to a more spiritual or satisfying lifestyle or career but don’t know where to begin?

One of the first things any coach or mentor facilitates with their client or pupil is to identify the individual’s vision. What is your desired future?

And, one of the most common stumbling blocks for those individuals is that they don’t know what they actually want.

Often, more than else, a person knows that they are not content with the current state of affairs. They want change or feel a calling towards a different life, but they’re not quite sure what they’d like or how to create it.

For example, Peta was a highly trained marketing manager responsible for six employees in a government department. She’d been in the same job for over eleven years. It paid very well and there were many aspects of the job Peta really enjoyed.

However, the nature of the industry and the high pressured deadlines meant that Peta was constantly working more hours than her 9 to 5 contract, she felt stressed a lot of the time, and her health started to decline. 

Now fortunately, Peta had supports, including her partner, friends, doctor and complementary health practitioners, who encouraged her to cut back from the hours she was working.

Peta took their advice and began to work part time. Because of the way her new hours were staggered, the salary cut wasn’t so significant that she missed it greatly. Peta had two extra days a week to relax, spend time with her children and with herself. Her health improved, she and her family holidayed more, and Peta became happier for her choice.

Alongside this, Peta had time to consider what she wanted for her life. She felt she was at the point of trying something new. She’d always known there was more to life than the 9 to 5, but she’d found herself on a treadmill and didn’t know how to get off. Now that Petra had said goodbye to the full-time treadmill she wanted to branch out into a more personally and spiritually satisfying direction.

But she didn’t know to where to start…

Well, Petra was not alone in her stumbling block. I see many clients who take measures to attend to their health and wellbeing, and who, experiencing positive changes in themselves, want to take that step further, but are not quite sure how to do it or even what it is they’d like as an outcome of change.

Each of them has an unsettled feeling and a drive to do, know, be more. They are becoming or are already awaren of themselves as evolving and expanding, but not really knowing what to do with that awareness, and not satisfied until they are living their expansion. 

Once that awareness comes to the fore, it is very difficult to ignore it and to be satisfied with the status quo. 

This is where having guidance and assistance can help. And who better to turn to than yourself?

That’s right. I’m a firm believer that everything we ever need is already within us, just waiting to surface towards recognition and acknowledgement.

‘Know Thyself.’

This Ancient Greek aphorism is never more relevant than it is today. Said to have donned the forecourt of the Temple of Apollo wherefrom the Oracle of Delphi spoke forth her prophesy, these words cut to the heart of all self-transformation.  

Today, as we bridge into the new age of Aquarius, we are compelled to turn within rather than without, and to know ourselves as divine. But first, we must know ourself.  

When we turn around and begin to really learn about ourselves then we become informed about what in life serves us best.

Too often folk get out of one unhealthy or unsuitable circumstance, whether job, career, relationship, contract, group, institution or other life aspect, only to find themselves in a similarly dissatisfying situation.

Why?

Because they didn’t know themselves.

Of course, there are myriad reasons why patterns are repeated, but certainly our circumstances have a greater chance of change if we know who we are, what our propensities lean towards, what influences us, how those influences came about, how and when we feel, what beliefs we have that don’t serve us, what habit and our values are, and what in life thrills us, excites us, finds us alive with joy or at least gives us peace and wellbeing.

When we come to know our Self, we are closer to knowing what our vision is and how to get there.

Without a doubt, one of the ways to know yourself is to turn inward, to listen to your thoughts, to watch your feelings – when are they activated, what heightens them, what dulls them – what patterns can you see in your life that you repeat in a way that does not help you, and which ones do help you…

Paying attention to your self.

Noticing your self.

Here are my ingredients for that initial step to knowing yourself – they’ve certainly helped me come to work my passions of healing and personal transformation:

  1. Know yourself – mindful awareness
  2. Identify your programme – what early beliefs implanted themselves that no longer serve you – internally and as behaviours/habits
  3. Identify values – make aware the values you hold and note where they are absent in your life
  4. Healing – engage in any healing work needed to assist the transformation
  5. Change your beliefs – alter the subconscious programme through hypnosis, regression work or other
  6. Repetition – repeat new beliefs, understandings
  7. Habituation – repetition in action creating new habits that do serve you aligned with values, authentic vibration and new self-knowing
  8. Turn Around – quietly with time for yourself and with new self-awareness and understanding, ask what is it you want…

There are tools to help you on this journey of self-exploration – so many – I suggest gravitating towards the ones that resonate with you, not just the ones that are more popular or available.

My ingredients are a first step in the unfolding of self-spiritual life change. They’ve helped me, and I use them in my work to help others.

It begins with you knowing you, and then it branches out into development and living your choices. From there it can move on to giving back and service…

Peta resigned from her government part-time job nine months ago. She used the two days off she had to study her young-adult interest of homeopathy. Today, Peta runs her own business supplying homeopathic remedies to holistic services and shops throughout Britain. She has turned her journey into a lifestyle and a service for others, running workshops on health and wellbeing, and treating clients. Peta’s own health has never been better, and just recently she laughed, ‘I’ve got everything I wanted, even though I didn’t know I wanted it back then!’.

Now, it doesn’t have to be natural medicine that floats your boat – it’ll be specific to your interests, values, vibration, soul’s path…

But if you want a spiritual or life change and don’t know where to begin, I hope this has helped, at least a little… Know Thyself. First. 

 

 

 

 

Ready are you? Guides, Mentors, Friends and Fellowship – Helping hands along the way.

After a lovely weekend with a dear friend, I’m reflecting on how valuable a group of people or an individual is for the development of creative and spiritual endeavours. 

During this past week, I’ve had valuable conversations with friends. I’ve sat in conversation with another dear one who apprentices me in ways of magic and life learning. And, as I work on my chapter outline for ‘Spirit Talk’, I was gifted a weekend with a dear friend who has just published her first book. We spent the time discussing ideas, growth points, vulnerabilities, dreams and enjoyments. It was a wealth of sharing, peer-support, friendship and mutual guidance. 

When I consider the richness of company I enjoy – a fellowship, if you like – I realise how fortunate I am to have people in my life who nurture, reflect and guide me in my personal, spiritual and creative life. And I feel the gift it is for me to participate in that role for others.

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The Fellowship of the Ring – a band of companions for a significant journey.

But this connection and guidance wasn’t always there. When I first entered into magical study and the Western Mysteries in Australia, I was quite isolated in these endeavours. And as these studies opened me up to Spirit and the inner planes, I had little support in understanding my experiences.

When Spirit and those Otherworld contacts began speaking with me, communicating teachings and intentions, well, that was outright unsettling. How could I be in relationship with the unseen, devote my time, energy, interest and indeed, my foreseeable future to the visions and directions Their communications were leading me when convention said that was wrong?

Convention said I must be mad. Fear said that path is too hard. Fear said that demands too much of me. I was yearning for it all to be true and yet terrified my experiences were real – because I would be called to act; then I would have to face what that meant; I would have a responsibility, a duty to follow through and to be guided, and I knew, ultimately, I would have to make visible the invisible and known the unknown, revealing myself as one who communed with the Otherworlds.

And yes, that terrified me.

Then, I couldn’t tell you why it scared me so, but it did. I know now that a fear of persecution, of ridicule, betrayal, torture and death was the hidden force behind my reluctance to BE one who mediates the physical and non physical worlds. One who is both bridge and seer.

But that is what I am, and to deny it is to deny my Self. To shun it is to love a lie and decay in unfulfilled potential; to make mockery of the soul plan I entered this life to live.

And so here I am today… dropping the mask, revealing my truth. It is what I hope for you too. It is all I hope for you. Drop the mask, and live your truth.

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Dropping the mask, revealing your truth.

I did not come to this state of acceptance alone – this living truth overnight. Ever, always, constant and never failing me, was Spirit and those of the Otherworlds and Inner Planes. And just as the inner realm is reflected in the outer, the physical world sent me people who taught me, helped me to understand my unfolding, guided me through healing, assisted me in very practical ways, until I was able to integrate, accept and then offer what I had learnt.

What I know now is that it is difficult to navigate creative, healing, spiritual and personal development alone. There are times when a person needs to share, to seek guidance, to have an affirming word spoken, to gain direction, to see familiarity in the other, to know she is not alone – or crazy!

It is in relationship with a mentor and guide or a friend who is able to hold space for you, reflect and advise when required that you are freer to simply allow and encourage your spiritual and personal progress.

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Calypso meets the young Telemachus while Athena, disguised as his older friend, Mentor, looks on.

‘Mentor’ comes from Homer’s Odyssey, wherein the Goddess Athena takes on the guise of Mentor, the trusted friend of Telemachus. As Mentor, Athena encourages Telemachus in his pursuits and plans. It is this guidance and the journey that Telemachus subsequently undertakes that gave ‘mentor’ it’s meaning today. 

Unlike in the Odyssey, today’s mentor is not a goddess or god. They are not better than you – often revealing their own frailties and flaws along the way – but they do have experience that qualifies them as teacher and guide. In this way, your progress is directed and nurtured until your readiness to take the lead changes the need for the mentor.

Of course, this relationship is not one-way. The guide or mentor learns through the process and this often informs the ongoing development of the their interests and path.

The guide and mentor will listen to where you want to go, outline a path of training, framework or guidance in order to reach your goal, and hold you in support as you journey the ofttimes challenging adventure of your development. And when you are ready, that person will ‘let go’ the reigns of teaching, stepping aside that you may walk confident in your understanding and unfoldment, having attained the desired outcome. And perhaps you too will go on to guide others. 

These days, my ‘fellowship’ of significant friends and individual mentors helps me to know myself better, and to gain knowledge in areas I’ve little gleaned. They help me to stay on track, to create frameworks to assist in my creative pursuits, to give feedback on my ideas, to critically assess my work, to listen to my concerns, my pains, to hold me in my changing and healing, to consistently stand steadfast all the while I grow into myself and reveal that Self in the world.

Their value to me cannot be measured. 

If you want change in your life, to pursue a creative idea, work towards the realisation of your goals or dreams, heal or you simply need short-term guidance, I encourage you to seek out a mentor or peer support.

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Reach for support.

You likely already have a few support people in your life. Often, there is one among those people, someone who plays a particular role in your life and who could easily slip into being a regular mentor. Sometimes, a friend or group of friends or peers can fulfil the purpose. You’ll know what is right for you.

I am convinced that if we want to drop our masks of convention, complacency and existence to embrace the vibration of our centre and soul’s evolution, we cannot do that alone. We need to be in relationship with mentors and guides – whatever form they take, the single Yoda or the Fellowship – to advance our intentions and to unfold our spirit.

It is with much heart gratitude that I give thanks for those in my life – physical and non-physical – who guide and nurture me.